Under normal circumstances on working days, I will be away from home. Now with the semi lock-down in our country I have been working from home every day, and I love it.
In the evenings I have a self-imposed deadline for when I have to log out and move my bottom to the couch. This is as much for me to relax a bit before bedtime, or just watching a movie. During weekends (under normal circumstances) I do my grocery shopping, and then go out for lunch. Those times are really precious.
Even in this lock-down I have found a new way of just spending time. With no restaurants open it’s not possible to sit down for lunch, and I don’t have to do grocery shopping, as my young friend go to the store with a list every Friday, and then sends me a message when she’s about to pay. I then drive over to pick her up. Still, on the Saturday, my young friend and I go to the park, and walk from the fish store to the butcher and then to the bakery, before returning back home. And of course we bring ourselves back something nice to eat, and sit down together to do so.
It seems we always find new ways to spend quality time together, and with our holiday coming up, I am sure we will go out on our photography day trips, the way we normally do. There might not be restaurants to go to, but I see us getting something to eat at a local bakery or supermarket, parking the car somewhere with a nice view and just having our snacks in the car. Also, taking into account the situation with COVID-19, our day trips will happen on week days, when people have to work and we don’t risk places being too busy. Safety first!
Feeling valued is not all about spending time together, but by spending time together we do feel loved and valued, and it keeps our bond strong. But, a touch here, a hug there, or a loving word goes a long way with deepening the feeling of being loved and valued, and I am thankful to say that we have that in our relationship.
I think feeling that you are valued and loved for the person you are, also opens you up and allows you to be vulnerable towards each other. To be able to reveal the deepest parts of yourself, whether it’s about feelings or needs or desires. I really believe that to be able to be vulnerable towards each other, many aspects in the relationship — many of which have been dealt with — need to be present and in balance.
I really am thankful for the relationship I have, where I can support the one I love so deeply on every level imaginable, and know I have her support in exactly the same way.
